ikhaya lam

  For Nomzamo     who ended her brilliant life on the 8th of April 2021   All unborn life is sacred they say except in case of rape or incest or when the mother's life is at risk   Then you may kill the child who would want to carry that product of violence that evil spawn for nine months push it out between your legs   Would you?   Some of us, ill-conceived yet unaborted, Eros and Thanatos in constant tug-of-war   You sentence us to death a thousand times then mourn when we kill ourselves            ❤     https://medium.com/the-understanding-project/the-ancient-dance-between-eros-and-thanatos-492afb747ef

   "Sometimes I write in self-defense" - Maya Angelou   The day before my birthday I was asked (again) why the search for my biological parents is so important to me; what I hoped to gain by knowing. I found my birth mother several decades ago. She gave birth to both the enquirer and I. I've given up on a relationship with "our" mother, but I would still like to find (out who) my father (was). I will therefore attempt to come up with a once-and-for-all answer on this page, if such a thing is possible. Because I think the answers change as one grows, but more about that later.  I suspect that, when she asked, my genetic half-sister was unaware of the significance of the following day. Not that I mind: I would prefer not to celebrate my birthday. I mark the day only because it seems important to others. This is in no way negative or sad, it's what I feel comfortable with. I don't much see the point of celebrating anybody's birthday after the age of 21....